One Night Stands and Other Dating Disasters

In this age of equal opportunity dating, women have become more open about their sexuality than ever before. While this is considered to be a definite step in the right direction, it also tends to open the doors to some true dating disasters. The reason for that is not quite clear, other than the long held belief that “boys will be boys” and “girls should always be ladylike.” Even with new attitudes, the majority of men will always consider women “easy” if they give in too quickly.

One night stands can be one of the most deadly obstructions to the growth of a true relationship. This is true for both men and women. A one night stand typically happens for a single purpose, which is to relieve some physical or sexual tension. Once the encounter is complete, at least one half of the couple cannot get away fast enough from the other one. Most of the time, it is the man who is doing the fleeing, although a decent number of women do the same thing.

The important thing to know with one night stands is that you should not expect anything great to come of them. For women, this guy is NOT going to call you. In fact, you will probably never see or hear from him again. Do not get caught up in the notion that if you sleep with him, he will fall in love with you. It just will not happen. If that is the way you are trying to find true love, plan on being alone for a very long time.

Blind dates that have been arranged by family members or good friends also hold the potential for disaster. While it is true that many blind dates have resulted in long term relationships, or even marriage, it is best to tread carefully with this situation. For example, a guy may appear to be “perfect” to your best friend who is 5’2” so she wants to set you up with him. However, it seems to have slipped her mind that he is only 5’4” and you top out at 5’10”. Height does not have to be an issue, but this is usually not a great way to start things off, at least without a warning ahead of time.

Be sure that someone you are going to be dating is on the same scale of partying as you are. If you tend to like a glass of wine with dinner and nothing else, chances are that you are not real drinker in the classic sense. Going out with someone who tends to enjoy the fact that you will be the designated driver because he plans to drink all night may lose its charm for you quickly. No one wants to baby sit a date every time they go out, not to mention cleaning out your vehicle at the end of every date.

The main thing to remember is to not become so desperate to have someone in your life that your actions will become reckless. Avoid the one night stands, blind dates, and partiers and find a TRUE relationship.